1Peter 3:3-4 tells us to, “Let not yours be the (merely) external adorning with elaborate interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or change of clothes; but let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a quiet and gentle and peaceful spirit, which (is not anxious or wrought up, but) is very precious in the sight of God. (Amp. Version)
How can we adorn ourselves inwardly? Seems the world around us focuses entirely on outward adornment, especially the adornment of women. The fashion and cosmetics industries make millions, promising to make us beautiful on the outside. Not that I don’t appreciate a little makeup or a flattering garment, after all the verse says our adornment is not to be ” merely” outward. But the attention, time and money given to outward adornments often greatly outweigh the time, thought, and prayer given to inward adorning…
We know God looks on the heart and not on the outside. So how are you adorning your heart? What am I doing to adorn my hidden person, that deepest part of my heart that only God sees? These words in 1 Peter tells us clearly what is precious, so precious to our God, and with which we are to adorn our hearts. It is the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit. Who would not desire unfading charm? Who would not desire to be ruled by a peaceful spirit? Who would not want to be gentle with our words, our lives? These verses are not talking about a certain personality, but a matter of ones’ spirit, of ones’ hidden person.
Later in 1 Peter 3 it speaks of the women who have gone before us who “HOPED in GOD”. This is key to having that gentle and peaceful spirit. As we put our hope, our wholehearted trust, our confidence in our God, then and only then, will we have this inward adorning. When we trust Him, our fears and anxiety are driven away and His gentleness and peace rules our hearts. We can even trust God with our husbands and their decisions when our hearts are ruled by Him.
Will our hearts look like this every day? No, it is a fight to go deep and trust long. We will fail. We will want to cover up and adorn the outward and show others how beautiful we are. But when the makeup comes off and we look at ourselves in the mirror we will be encouraged to look deeper. We will not want to stay the same, but lay that hidden part of us before our Creator Father God and let Him add the strokes of beauty, the colors of His life, and the Truth of His Word as He adorns us inwardly.
My husband never seems to want any gifts and if he does, it will certainly be something very practical. I love to give gifts so this can be frustrating at times. So what is it that I may give him that shows my love and would also be happily received by him? I think Ephesians 5:33b informs me of a precious gift which costs no money, but would be priceless to my husband. That gift is RESPECT… This is what it says:
“let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband (that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly.)” Ephesians 5:33b Amp.
Wow… that verse in the amplified version says much!!! God knows what my husband needs, so He gives me as his wife this command to respect him. Notice that there are no adjectives describing what kind of husband to respect. I am to respect him in his God given role in our marriage, whether he is always fulfilling that role or not. I often share with young women to marry a respectable man because it makes it much easier for her to obey this scripture. I believe that your husband will grow and blossom as you share with him daily this biblical gift of respect!
So whether it is Valentine’s Day or just each ordinary day remember to respect your husband in the way that Ephesians 5:33b describes. This may help you or you could write your own reminder.
R–Rightfully honor your husband
E–Esteem him above all others
S–Shine when you are with him
P–Praise him often, preferring him
E–Eyes looking at him when he speaks
C–Calling his name out in prayer daily
T–Treating him with love and kindness
If a little respect goes a long way,imagine what a lot of respect does? So wrap up RESPECT for your husband and let him receive it each day. You both will be glad you did!
Years ago I made resolutions; the usual physically fit, eat healthy, organize my life kind. Then later, I gave up making resolutions, finding they were short lived and non-productive.
This year, however, I have been challenged to look at resolutions in a new way. A devotion by John Piper encouraged me to do so. He stated that our problem is not in making resolutions, but in the purpose of those resolutions and how those resolutions come to fruition. God tells us in His Word to be “fully persuaded, to “set our hearts”, and “to work out our salvation”. All of these are very resolute statements. So we are not to be irresolute! God wants us to have spiritual resolve, not just the beginning of the New Year but the beginning of each new day.
Resolutions are too often powered by our own determination or our own willpower. II Thessalonians 1:11-12 contains the theology on resolutions…
“To this end (the glorious return of Jesus) we always pray for you, that our God may make you worthy of His calling and may fulfill every resolve for good and every work of faith by His power, so that the name of our Lord Jesus may be glorified in you and you in him according to the grace of God and Lord Jesus Christ.”
So, because, our Lord is returning one day, Paul prays that we may be worthy of our calling. We are to resolve to do good, obey God, to love more, to walk in integrity, etc. and it can only be accomplished by God’s power and grace. Again we have our part and He has His part.
Make resolutions this year that the name of our Lord Jesus may be glorified. In what area does God especially want you to work on intentionally? Ask Him! Only, always remember it takes His power and grace to bring us to the place of fulfillment…..