Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with he own hands.

Proverbs 14:1 tells us … “Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with he own hands.”

We wives and mothers have great power. We play a major part in building our homes.  The question that we must ask ourselves very honestly is, “Do I build up or do I tear down?”

I build up or I tear down with my words.

I build up or I tear down with my attitude.

I build up or I tear down with my actions.

I hold the ability to set the daily tone for my home.  The saying, “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!” is often truer than we would want to believe. How do I send my husband off to work each day? How do I greet my children as they wake up or as they return home? Is the tone of my home one of peace (though it may not be quiet)? Is there tension and strife cutting through the air? Is it an atmosphere of laughter rather than complaining?  Are kind words heard more than whining (maybe even my whining)?

If your first thoughts after reading this is …” This is just too much responsibility. I am not perfect! I am not going to get it right all the time… I know that I often tear down rather than build up”. Well, I agree. But you know, this verse begins with words of hope and the answer to our dilemma. It begins with …every wise woman.. We can build our homes when we are being wise women. Jesus is Wisdom personified, and when He dwells within us we can have His wisdom because we have HIM. His WORD (the Bible) gives wise instruction in every page and as His Holy Spirit teaches us and empowers the application of His Word to my every day life, I can become that wise woman who builds her home and thus blesses all who live there.

I do not want splinters in my hands or splinters in the hearts around me. I do not want to tear down my home  with my own hands. I do not want to be a foolish woman.  Lord, teach me to be a wise woman so I may build in my home, Your Kingdom. May my home speak of Jesus and bring You Glory…