1Peter 3:3-4 tells us to, “Let not yours be the (merely) external adorning with elaborate interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or change of clothes; but let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a quiet and gentle and peaceful spirit, which (is not anxious or wrought up, but) is very precious in the sight of God. (Amp. Version)
How can we adorn ourselves inwardly? Seems the world around us focuses entirely on outward adornment, especially the adornment of women. The fashion and cosmetics industries make millions, promising to make us beautiful on the outside. Not that I don’t appreciate a little makeup or a flattering garment, after all the verse says our adornment is not to be ” merely” outward. But the attention, time and money given to outward adornments often greatly outweigh the time, thought, and prayer given to inward adorning…
We know God looks on the heart and not on the outside. So how are you adorning your heart? What am I doing to adorn my hidden person, that deepest part of my heart that only God sees? These words in 1 Peter tells us clearly what is precious, so precious to our God, and with which we are to adorn our hearts. It is the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit. Who would not desire unfading charm? Who would not desire to be ruled by a peaceful spirit? Who would not want to be gentle with our words, our lives? These verses are not talking about a certain personality, but a matter of ones’ spirit, of ones’ hidden person.
Later in 1 Peter 3 it speaks of the women who have gone before us who “HOPED in GOD”. This is key to having that gentle and peaceful spirit. As we put our hope, our wholehearted trust, our confidence in our God, then and only then, will we have this inward adorning. When we trust Him, our fears and anxiety are driven away and His gentleness and peace rules our hearts. We can even trust God with our husbands and their decisions when our hearts are ruled by Him.
Will our hearts look like this every day? No, it is a fight to go deep and trust long. We will fail. We will want to cover up and adorn the outward and show others how beautiful we are. But when the makeup comes off and we look at ourselves in the mirror we will be encouraged to look deeper. We will not want to stay the same, but lay that hidden part of us before our Creator Father God and let Him add the strokes of beauty, the colors of His life, and the Truth of His Word as He adorns us inwardly.